Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Ninety Eight

My husband's grandmother has passed away.  We are headed to Kentucky.  The last time we saw her, we never knew it would be...the last time.

MeMa and my youngest

When my husband and I were dating, she was already at the point of telling the same stories, over and over, but still had a sparkle in her eyes.  In recent years she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's, which progressed very quickly.  We have never lived close enough to witness the decline.

This time is definitely more about my husband and his side of the family.  However, she now knows just how I always felt about her.  From the moment we first met, she was willing to talk to me and share.  Maybe I was just really willing to listen.  She took the pressure of joining a family and made me feel like I just might belong.  I don't have much to remember her by, except for a few pictures and the conversations that were had.  I do have two items that she gave me and they have always been front and center in our home.  One sits at our desktop and the other I used to wear daily on my right hand, until I found it to be too fragile for every day wear.

Simply put, she was proof that there are moments with people that are perfectly orchestrated by a higher love when you need it most.  A smile, a laugh, a hug, a gesture, a story.  My son says I say the same things over and over right now.  MeMa was a little older than I, so I guess age is truly is just a number :)

Whatever age and whatever stage you have made it to today, it's a milestone...it's a gift.

Is there something special about someone that you will someday miss?

One of my favorite pictures, my youngest son snooping around at her place.

My oldest son, hugging good bye...the last time.

I will be back soon.




Ann said...

I still miss my grandmother even though I was eleven when she died. Her calm and happiness rubbed off on the whole family and still inspires to this day.

I hope your husband and your family will be able to smile with their memories.

Stitchfork said...

My sympathies on your loss. Cherish those memories.
xo Cathy

elephantJuice said...

Such sweet memories, that is a beautiful tribute. I'm so sorry for your loss, and wish you and your family all the best at such a difficult time x

The Buzz Blog said...

I lost my grandmother to Alzheimer's too and it seemed that every time we saw her, we were saying hello and goodbye. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, Kel.

Sarah said...

Awwww. I am so sorry for your family's loss. I will be praying for you all.

Marie Brady said...

Hi Kelly, so sorry for your loss!
I just lost my last parent 3 weeks ago (my dad) and miss having grandparents as well. The best gift is the time you got to spend with your husband's grandmother and the she know how you felt about her.

quintessence said...

Oh loss is always hard, no matter how old the person or their situation. I miss my mother every day - although she has been gone 4 years now, there are so many times I have almost picked up the phone to call her with a funny story or something I thought she would appreciate. Sending my thoughts and sympathy to you and your husband's family.

Vanessa said...

I’m sorry for your loss but when you look back, you have those special memories. You’re family is in my thoughts and prayers.

Charlotta Ward said...

Darling I am so sorry for your loss. Please pass my condolences to Stacy also. xx

There are many special things I will miss about many people and I guess that is what make the so special. The fact that we can't and shouldn't take anything or anyone for granted makes each day so much more precious.

It sounds like the whole family have so many wonderful memories of 'MeMa' and for sure they will live on through you and your children.

My thoughts are with you all in this time of loss.

Biggest virtual hugs from afar, for the whole family.

xx Charlotta

5th and State said...

so sorry kelly on you and your family's loss of 'mema'. fortunately your children had the opportunity to know her and she them. that last photo is precious.
you are in my thoughts

Stacy said...

Hi friend. So sorry to hear. Luv u!

A BRIT GREEK said...

So sorry for your loss, things will get better with time.
I also lost my only grandmother i've ever known over a year ago, but im glad to have had her in my life.

Sending you hugs and sunshine from Greece.

Mrs Conti @ Belvivere said...

Grandmothers, mothers .. the most important woman in our life (daughters even)...
Love the pic of your son 'snooping' around...

bikim said...

so sorry!!!!!!!!!
and yet so pretty!
take care,
happy weekend,

Privet and Holly said...

Sending you and
your family BIG
hugs....This is a
day that I'm sorely
dreading with my
own GiGi. What
a beautiful grandma
your hubby had!
xx Suzanne

Kelly Berg, IIDA, IACC-NA said...

Hugs to you, Kelly. I'm so sorry for your family's loss. It's so hard. Your post is beautiful though, and I'm sure she would have loved it.
Take care!

designchic said...

My thoughts are with you all...such precious memories in these photos ~

About Last Weekend said...

What wonderful photos, beautiful. I still miss my grandma and though she was tiny she had such a strong character and personality - and accent she was from Manchester - that I can still hear her in my mind...

Splendid Willow said...

Dear Kelly, I am so sorry about the family loss.

The memories and photos = priceless.

We are hugging you.

From my family to yours. Much love.


SoapyMermaid said...

I love the way you talk of her : your words are full of love and tenderness. those photos of her and your little one are also very touching..

Stacey said...

Hi Kel,
I'm only just reading this(i haven't been blogging), and i'm really sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing these pics with us and telling us how much she meant to you... I will be thinking of you and your hubby and also his family. Big, big hugs to you my sweet. XX

pretty pink tulips said...

Hi Kel,
I, too, am just reading this. I am so sorry for your loss. She sounds like the grandmother any girl would love to inherit as you marry into a new family.

I know her presence will be missed by all.
xoxo Elizabeth

OneCraftyFox said...

Oh Kelly, this post absolutely breaks my heart. I am so sorry for your loss and your sadness. I wish I could step into your blog and give you a great big warm hug.

xoxox Diana

Blue Fruit said...

Kelly this is so very, very sad that I am sitting here with my eyes watering up, reading your loving and thoughtful words. It is wonderful that you had such a warm relationship with her, and that just makes your loss all the lonelier, and yet sweeter too.

Big hugs and lots of love through this sadness. Virginia x

this free bird said...

Oh Kelly I'm thinking about you and hoping you're okay. This really put a lump in my throat--I miss my own gram still so much, and my ex-bf's grandfather passed just a few years ago. I still breakdown just thinking of him. He always used to say, "the golden years are not so golden". sigh


STYLE'N said...

Oh Kelly I just got chills reading your post...so touching and sad..safe travels and can we please catch up when you return? lots of things to share with you......


Hi Kelly, So sorry to hear of your loss--a beautiful remembrance with lovely photos--thinking of you and your family. xxBarbara

Mona Thompson Providence Ltd. said...

Kelly, I have missed visiting you...I am soooo sorry. She was beautiful and sounds like an incredible woman. Be safe and know that I send my love. Mona

Natalie @ Blossoming Visions said...

Dearest Kelly,
I'm so very sorry for your family's loss. Alzheimer's is such a sad disease. My grandmother also has it. My prayers go out to you in this difficult time. Safe travels...

Ryan K said...

I'm so sorry :( Your blog post brought tears to my eyes. I'm so sorry for your loss, I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

Coryanne Ettiene | Housewife Bliss said...

I am so sorry for your loss Kelly, the photos and words you shared were simple but moving at the same time. As I always like to think, she will see you in your dreams and be with you always in your heart. All the best, Coryanne

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